Thursday, November 13, 2008

Boost for the day.....

"A transition character is one who, in a single generation, changes the entire course of a lineage. The changes might be fore good or ill, but the most noteworthy examples are those individuals who grow up in an abusive, emotional destructive environment and show somehow find a why to metabolize the poison and refuse to pass it alone to their children. They break the mold. They refute the observation that....the sins of the fathers are visited upon the heads of children to the third and forth generation. Their contribution to humanity is to filter the destructiveness out of their own lineage so that the generations downstream will have a supportive foundation upon which to build productive lives." Carlfred Broderick, University of Southern California

I've always beleived that your children will grow up to be just like you someday so you better be careful. Well, that's not always the case. And something we always have to remember is that no family or person is perfect! EVER! There was only one and that was Jesus.
It's like having a road map of life. And when you reach a ceratin age, or adulthood, or point in your life, you may...and probably very well should....decide to take a different route. Parents should let their children go on their way and live a life of freedom. Co-dependent families are never healthy and can only lead you down a path of destruction. It can either be quick or really catch you off guard.
So know that we all have the power to change this within ourselves. When we are doing our work for the Lord, He gives us the power and strength we need. When we are weak, He is strong.

I got some great literature in the mail and paraphrased...this is what it concluded:

We must develop a vision for our futures. We are successful people, not damaging.
We need to develop supportive relationships with strong adults who have been there, or who know how to listen and be constructive in their comments. We must be deliberate in our changes. Patterns are hard to break. Put emotional distance between the people you spend time with. Don't invest time in people who are constantly negative. Distract yourself with good positive things for you and your family. If you can't do it on your own...get help!!! And CELEBRATE the positives! Celebrate things in life that provide a sense of unity and constancy to the family members. Begin NEW riturals to replace the negativity. Have some fun!!! Do this, even when times are tough! You will appreciate yourself more, and so will your family!

Now...let me open up my mailbox everyday and see THAT!!!

So what does that say about me??? I have a vision, I am successful, I have great relationships with people who love me, I want to make a change, I can initiate the positve, I'm not alone, and I should Celebrate!

Think I kinda like it! ;o)

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